March 9, 2021
We often believe…
I’ll be happy when I buy a new car. I’ll be happy when I pay off my debt. I’ll be happy when I get the promotion.
It may take a month or a year but the happiness from reaching a milestone fades like the joy of Christmas morning to a 10 year old kid. This is natural. It’s good. It’s part of what it means to be human.
It keeps us hunting, exploring, innovating, and pursuing. It’s our antidote to boredom.
We often think we will be happy when we are successful but success fuels ambition not our happiness. We re-create the lack of happiness in order to keep growing.
We are driven by it’s pursuit, not happiness itself.
I have a new car. Now I want a new house. I paid off my debt. Now I want to save and invest. I was promoted to manager. Now I want to be director.
Happiness is not created through our drive. It is not accomplished or found. It’s a state of being.
It’s an internal journey with external implications.
It’s time to de-couple happiness from success. Let’s flip the script from:
I’ll be happy when… to I’ll be happy and…
I’m happy and I want a new car. I’m happy and I want to pay off my debt. I’m happy and I want a promotion.